As a society, we disregard emotions. Emotions are for the weak and being vulnerable would let others take advantage of you. That is how we all grow up. Defensive, scared, and a big armor to toughen ourselves up because after all,
the world is all about “survival of the fittest”.
I never really understood the true meaning of vulnerability until recently. What I understood before was vulnerability is a sign of weakness and it is only for people who could not fight back. A belief that it is a shame to show the world your struggles and challenges.
In early 2020, I picked up the book called “Daring Greatly” by Brené Brown and it flipped my life upside down. She is telling everyone to be more vulnerable and challenging the norms of what we believe as mentally strong. I was skeptical at first but I wanted to explore more about this topic. I slowly started to practice vulnerability and realized being vulnerable is one of the most powerful acts for humans.
Letting people know your struggles, weakness, emotions, and challenges. Being able to step in the unknown and uncertainty and talk openly about your emotions can mean you are stronger than average human beings. It is an act for the strong because you are going against what you believed in your entire life.
After reading this book, I reached out to one of the big bosses I worked for briefly. He was happy to help me in any way he can to land a job at the big organization he is currently working for. By asking for his help, I was exposed to a lot of things; being ignored and rejected but I did it anyway. He is a great person who is willing to help people out and I would never know about it if I did not reach out to him.
Being vulnerable is knowing that things can go opposite of what you want but still have the courage to show up and do it anyway.
That to me is one of the best life lessons I learned from reading her book. With every step you take into uncertainty and you are faced with rejection, what you gain from the experience is resiliency. The ability to bounce back up and be vulnerable again. The combination of resiliency and vulnerability is how we grow as individuals, not the big armors. This commitment takes huge chunks of mental energy and drains us with every rejection but every bit of it is worth it.